The Angry Side
Why did I research this?
You know those times when you see fire in your child’s face and he will not calm down no matter what! Well… this fire had a tendency to turn volcanic when my second son was born. I researched anger because my son and I were both having a lot of anger outbursts and I wanted my son to be able to manage his emotions a whole lot better.
What did I find?
According to Siegel, clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and Payne Bryson, psychotherapist and school counsellor, “One of the most important skills we can teach our children is to make good decisions in high-emotion situations”. (2012: 38). Anger is definitely one of those high emotion situations that can end in good or bad depending on our how we nurture it as parents. If nurtured well, it can become a situation that your child is able to calm down from rather than a situation that feels like an earthquake!
Why should you try it?
Metaphors and analogies for anger can help your child understand an intense emotion better, helping him to feel less scared and more empowered to problem solve. The more you exercise your child’s upstairs brain, the better problem solving skill she will have in times of intense emotions.