Why did I research this?
I know negative feelings are normal, natural and necessary but my how they can be tiring and hard to shake. I’m only just learning to say how I feel so I gathered that if I want my sons to manage their negative feelings appropriately I need to start training them early. I researched this to find out what else helps shake negative feelings besides having a shout and slamming doors.
What did I find out?
There are many ways to express anger appropriately and these can become habits overtime such as: hiding under a heavy blanket, sucking your thumb, running around outside, smashing ice cubes outside, smashing egg shells outside, crunching ice, grinding chalk in a mortar and pestle, ripping up paper, putting a song on, and punching a mattress. If anger is not taught to be expressed appropriately it could dbe pushed down inside your child or expressed destructively through pushing, pulling and hitting.
To use this article, show your children during a calm moment about appropriate (should do) behaviours and inappropriate (should not) behaviors. If anger is not allowed to be expressed at all, children can become passive aggressive as the anger can become deep rooted inside of them. Avoid passive aggression by teaching and modelling appropriate ways to express anger and of course love your child unconditionally regardless of how much he flips his led.
How is this useful?
Children can see clearly how hitting, pulling and shouting can hurt people as well as alternatives for these behaviors.
Children will be better equipped their negative feelings if they have had some practice.
Through listening, understanding and the setting of boundaries children will feel empowered and better able to express their emotions in the least hurtful way.